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[cupcake_goth]

Let me save you $40, here's how to be happy. (Clicky-link!)

Yes, what the author is saying is obvious. And yes, I know that lots of us follow some (or all) of his advice. But hey, reminders are good!

You really should click through and read the post, but the condensed version is this:

1. Stop being a dick.
2. Stop whining.
3. Get out, get some exercise, unplug and deal with real people.
4. If people are treating you like crap, then let them go.
5. Your critics are always right.
6. Do hard stuff for a change.
7. Let stuff go / suck it up.

Sooo, I really need to keep working on 2, 6, and 7. I need to remember all of them, really, but 2, 6, and 7 are the ones I tend to not be as diligent about.

EDIT: a comment from javagoth made me want to clarify something. No, I don't entirely agree with #5. But, I think it's meant in the "Their perception is valid, and you might want to try and figure out what has given them that particular perception of you. Don't just dismiss it out of hand."

One's critics aren't always right. But I do think listening to one's critics is more valuable than a knee-jerk dismissive reaction.

Comments

[septembergrrl.livejournal.com]

I don't think that's bad advice at all.

One thing I've learned about critics? Most people tend to let things slide the first time they notice it. So if someone is peeved enough to actually say something to you ... it usually means it's something you've done before or annoyed other people with, and you need to consider if it is a problem in how you present yourself. The other possibility, of course, is that some people are just mean, but I agree it's better not to kneejerk to that conclusion.