:: screams into the void ::

[cupcake_goth]

I woke up today to a text from my faux step-sister: Dad went to the hospital yesterday, but was released the same day. He has pneumonia in one lung. His white blood cell count is average, thank goodness, because that's part of why he was in the hospital last time. He has a week's worth of antibiotics, and a prescription for a drug named Lasix, which is used to reduce edema for anything from stress issues to congestive heart failure. 

Faux step-sister said that Dad's discharge paperwork did list congestive heart failure. I know it's a manageable condition, so I'm trying not to freak out. All of my stress is currently around the fact that Dad didn't contact me or tell me any of this himself. Again. Thank goodness my faux step-sister knows his avoidance issues around this and keeps me in the loop. 

OH MY G-D DAD, WHY. TELL ME THIS SHIT. 

I swear to G-D, when I talk to him next, I'm going to guilt-trip the hell out of him. "I know you don't want to worry me, but it's starting to feel like you just don't want me to be involved, and that upsets me even more". Yes, manipulative as hell, but I can't think of any other way to get it through his fucking head that he needs to tell me these things. 

I was drinking coffee when I got the text from FSS; after I was done talking to her, I washed some Xanax down with my coffee, because rockstar life? IDEK. 

Comments

[staxxy]

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!

(see also, screaming now too)

Fucking hell dad.

[jengalicious]

It is amazingly frustrating that you keep having the same conversation with him over and over. Nothing has changed. You still need to know.

I'm very sorry.

[sistawendy]

You might not have to manipulate him if you point out the potential consequences of his actions. He could leave you wondering for the rest of your life if you could have saved him. I know what that feels like, if not for either of my parents. Surely he doesn't want that for you.

Olds. Goddess dammit.

[m_cobweb]

Augh. I'm glad there's someone keeping you in the loop, at least, even if it's not the person it should be.

[oldhalloween]

Who has medical POA for your dad? If it is you the hospital should have it on file you are the daughter with POA and to contact you. Family in CA was the hardest to deal with until I made sure both hospitals had me on record to be called. Girlfriend and or the hospital should have a copy of his advance directive. You can download that form, fill it out, and have it notarized. Sounds like a hard conversation is coming. Medical POA , Advance directive, and a will. Sorry, that had to be so stressful.

[tiggymalvern]

Manipulate and guilt trip if you have to. Seems like a good approach to me if nothing else works.

[archersangel]

sorry to hear about your dad, but glad he's out of the hospital.

[gatheringrivers]

Basic Lasix info in case you need it.

[melworks]

So sorry you're having such a time getting your Dad to keep you notified about his health. And, yes, I think you may need to sit down and have a very blunt conversation with him. :(