Right after Ed died, the grief was too fresh for me to have enjoyed a tea among the other dead. Though that says more about my grieving than about the "proper" respect due to mourners! Further, it is my understanding that there is often quite a distance between the recent graves and the promoted picnic/gathering sites in an established cemetary, to avoid just these sorts of clashes.
On the other hand, churchyards in villages and towns would bury the dead and baptise the babies on the same grounds they would gather the congregation to celebrate. Widows and mourners were treated with respect, and it was socially permitted to excuse oneself.
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Date: 2009-07-13 10:11 pm (UTC)On the other hand, churchyards in villages and towns would bury the dead and baptise the babies on the same grounds they would gather the congregation to celebrate. Widows and mourners were treated with respect, and it was socially permitted to excuse oneself.