terrific job handling such a delicate and uncomfortable question. yet another special case of "friendship is not a transitive property", a principle which needs very much to be elucidated among subcultures of all sorts. i certainly wish i'd learned it much earlier than i did. ;)
(spelling and punctuation in the first paragraph: "whether or not" instead of "whether or nor"; final punctuation missing - that's all i noted.)
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(spelling and punctuation in the first paragraph: "whether or not" instead of "whether or nor"; final punctuation missing - that's all i noted.)