I really want to find out who this person is

[cupcake_goth]

Hey look, another comment on a post at Jezebel!

Japanese Princess Girls Live Life Like A Fairy Tale (clicky-link!)

thatonegirl says: "There is a woman at my company who dresses like these women do EVERY.SINGLE.DAY.

Except it's black and pink and more gothy, but seriously, so much effort! Why for?"

Oh, that's an easy question to answer, thatonegirl. Because I like to. Because it makes me happy.

(I am SO TEMPTED to actually sign up for a user ID at Jezebel and reply to her comment. I probably won't (and I probably shouldn't), but it is tempting.)

Comments

[sistawendy.livejournal.com]

Why for?

If she can't tell by looking, she'll never know.

ETA: I meant to use my you've-got-to-be-kidding-me userpic.

[cass404.livejournal.com]

*blinky*

Huh.

[torreybird.livejournal.com]

It makes me so happy that now I get to wear stripey tights whenever I damn well please.

But more importantly, and the reason for making this comment: without the fantastic example that you provide, I might never have gotten my head around dressing how it makes me happy. I now take advantage of the opportunities to dress exactly how it makes me happy. Sure, there are days when I'm happier with it than others - I am only just beginning, after all!

So thank you Jilli!

[amaliedageek.livejournal.com]

To quote Christopher Fry: what abysmal poverty of mind!

[javagoth.livejournal.com]

I sounds to me a bit like this girl needs to GET A LIFE! I mean, really, what business is it of hers how other people dress? She seems a bit obsessive over it.

I know why I don't dress like you every day - I'm lazy and I've always had tom-boy tendencies. That and it's long been a struggle to find skirts and tights or nylons that fit OK - plus then add my flat wide feet to the mix. So I tend more toward pants and plain shirts at work and leave my dressing up for after work. In fact - I just realized I don't have a good pair of dance flats for some of my newly added nicer goth clothes - an issue I'll need to remedy when I get a job because the cheap mary janes I've been wearing in the mean time are nearly worn out as well.

God - I'm loopy tired and babbling. I think no Grind for me tonight...

[shrift.livejournal.com]

I'm tempted to sign up at Jezebel and comment to this chick that, "Working where (I assume) you do, perhaps you ought to realize that your coworkers are on the internet and may even be reading your douchey comments about them."

[marc17.livejournal.com]

Just log in and ask "Are you talking about her" and a link back to your interview for the MS online magazine or Bust.

[smu.livejournal.com]

I have a username there, I can write her a comment for you

[kajafoglio.livejournal.com]

Ugh. People who have to ask: "Why?" How tiny their tiny worlds must be.

[djeternaldarkne.livejournal.com]

The norms will never learn or know about being happy for yourself I guess.

[master-cobweb.livejournal.com]

*sigh*

Some people will just never get the concept of individual style.

I for one love the way you dress! In fact, in Fable, my husband's (female) character wears a black skirt with a pink and black tail coat, and it always reminds me of you. :)

[staxxy.livejournal.com]

it sounds, to me, like this person is not confused as much about the *style* as she is making the *effort* required to dress like this every day. Considering the fast and loose dress codes there... well, she may be one of those people who wears basic clothing, brushes her hair, and then goes in to the office - the sort of person who thinks spending more than 20 minutes getting ready for work (including the shower) is a waste of time. The sad thing is that most of the people who believe that effort for self is pointless are also people who are confused as to why they are unhappy with how things are in their lives. It is also possible that she is mystified by the level of bravery required to push your own style (regardless of what that is) as far as you do; she may be a person who obsesses about what other people think of her to the point that she isn't really sure who she is because she spends more of her time trying to make others happy than she does being focused on what makes *her* happy.

Regardless of the motivations, it is sad that she spends so much time thinking about it.

Personally, I still think that "always choose fabulous" is the best motto to live by.

[ex-fashioni.livejournal.com]

What a sad creature that commenter is-- just doesn't get the basic "it" of why you dress the way you do.

I will admit, however, the subject of the article did mystify me a bit, not so much because she dresses in a way that makes her happy or feel pretty, but that she does it on a scale that renders basic items like food as less important. It's the sole focus of her life. (It's a little bit like that Daily Mail article about the women who were lived/dressed time period appropriate.)

While for you, it's an integrated part of your life, not this compartmentalized thing. If I'm making any sense.

It's funny, too, how threatened people are by things that are outside the realm of what they consider "normal." For me, it's my taste in evening gowns-- since I like the elaborate vintage or designer gowns, that comes under some suspicion when I've worn them. People think that it's somehow "brave." Dude, I just like the gowns.

I didn't see you in this fashion trend

[maiaarts.livejournal.com]

Is this woman wandering the web trying to find things remotely like you (and failing since you are you) and commenting - I mean, what is her motive? Does she wants someone on high to suddenly go:
OK girl, this worries you so much, that HERE is the answer! Blah Blah...?

You don't go without food to wear what you do. In fact, the way you get bargains and make them look like a million dollars is one of the coolest things about your looks, because it makes it seem possible for the rest of us.

And also - what if this woman is wearing simple clothes, but super expensive designer label crap that costs more than you shoes?

The issue is why is she so concerned about this? Why doesn't she just ASK you? Why post all over?

I think that the idea of linking to the Bust article is good, but even a straight forward answer to her might not make her understand.

I love the roses thing, but I could make those things for waaaay less than they cost. I don't think that they even look that tea party like OR Marie Antoinette like. So I am not sure why they are called princess?

[chronivore.livejournal.com]

I vote you strangle thatonegirl with her own entrails.

... but I'm old fashioned.

From the pop-culture psychologist point of view: if the best someone can come up with for an online identity is "thatonegirl" then I worry for their sense of identity and worth.

[theblackdeer.livejournal.com]

Ok, seriously, what you do every day takes no more effort than what every other woman does to get ready for work. For instance: plain jane gets up in the morning, showers, blows dry her hair, puts on makeup, and then puts on a business outfit. You get up in the morning, shower, blow dry hair, put on makeup, and put on a Jilli outfit. What's the difference? Where you shop, mainly...

[miss-electra.livejournal.com]

It's an interesting article, and I definitely wish I could pull off the princess girl look at the law firm... As it is, I'm excited that this season is letting me wear puffier sleeves, and lots of pink.

[chrisrnps.livejournal.com]

1) You should so sign up for an account just to leave a snarky comment.

2) My favorite comment: "Jesus Diamante is totally my new drag king persona."

[theda-bara.livejournal.com]

I did it. I logged in and left her a reply. Her comment just ticked me off the wrong way.

Gothic Lolitas

[purple-mark.livejournal.com]

Great stuff! I wandered through the New York stuff and tried to see the Betsy Johnson, I have 2 of
her dresses and at least 1 top, but maybe you have to be signed in to see it properly.
Anyway, thanks for telling me what BPAL was and I hope that you are doing better today!